Can a Student Date a Professor?
Here's a question that is sure to spark some debate -- can a student date a professor? It's a question that has been around as long as students have had professors and professors have had students. Student/professor relationships are perfect for the gossip circles in the quad or the cafeteria on any campus, even at a community college like GCC.
Student/professor relationships can be broken down into 3 categories:
- 1) While actively in a class together
- 2) After a class is completed
- 3) With 2 people who never cross academic disciplines
At Greendale Community College Dean Pelton has a very strict policy about student/professor relationships. He has even crafted a scale from 1-10, rating the hottest and most eligible students and professors to anticipate possible couples before they unite.
Valentine's Day seems to remind me of such relationships, especially when you see them flaunted at the school dance. I suppose I could be in support of categories 1 & 2, but since I'm currently single I'm bitter toward anyone in a relationship.
How do you all feel? Not just student/professor relationships, lets throw a Valentine's Day into the conversation too. I love sparking conversation across campus. Watching people who might not ever speak to one another discussing hot topics in the cafeteria line or the at the coffee bar.
Go get to talking!
Can You Date a Friend's Ex?
Maybe it's because Valentine's Day is just around the corner, but relationships have been on my mind... constantly. Everywhere I turn on campus I see people in love, or lust, or whatever it's called these days. Hand holding, kissing under the tree, cuddling on the bench, sexting. It's endless. And of course Valentine's Day makes it that much worse. You can't even go to the grocery store without being reminded of singles awareness day. Heart-shaped cookies, red velvet cake, red and pink candy. When will it end? Well, I guess in exactly 10 days on February 15th, when we can finally put this awful day behind us.
However, since I'm on the subject of romance, I have a question for all of you. Can you date a friend's ex? It's a question I have wrestled with for several years. One of my best friends in high school starting dating my ex-boyfriend after we graduated. Needless to say, she was not my best friend for much longer. I just couldn't get over the feeling that after my three-year relationship with this guy, she was waiting in the wings to sweep him up once we had broken up. I always questioned her loyalty after that and couldn't regain the trust.
Now, I'm not bitter enough to realize that there are varying degrees of friendships and factors that may make the situation acceptable. But, what are those situations? For instance...
- If you've only casually dated someone for less than six months, can a friend date them after?
- If you've been in a committed relationship with someone for more than six months, can a friend date them after?
- If you've had a crush on someone and been vocal about it, can a friend date that person first?
- If you've dated someone for more than a year, can a friend date them after?
Now, I'm not bitter enough to realize that there are varying degrees of friendships and factors that may make the situation acceptable. But, what are those situations? For instance...
You see where I'm going here, right? There are so many variables that it's almost too difficult to make up one's mind in one direction of another. So, I've decided to implement a "no dating a friend's ex" policy in my life to avoid any gray areas that might pop up.
What do you think?
